10 Inspirational Thoughts About Marriage
I am far from an expert on marriage! I am only 24, I've only been married 3 1/2 years, and I wont lie my marriage isn't perfect and we've had our struggles but lets be honest... WHO HASN'T? Anyone who has ever been married knows that marriage is not easy, its not for the faint of heart, its hard its work but it is also so incredibly worth it!
I've said it before, I think one of the GREATEST thing we do as humans, is love. I think love is the most beautiful, pure, exciting thing that we experience here on earth. I think loving someone is the greatest purpose you can have in life. Love comes in many shapes and sizes, there are different kinds of love, you love different people throughout your life, but one of the most obvious ways we think of love is in a romantic relationship. I wanted to share some of the things I believe about marriage and the things I've learned so far. I found these awesome quotes on Pintrest (they are not mine!) that really spoke to me. So Here are 10 thoughts on marriage!
1. Strive for a Marriage worth imitating.
Now I realize not all married couples have children, but I think this is still a rule we can all live by. Strive for a marriage that other people will see and want to imitate weather it be your children, or friends, or family, or even complete strangers. Strive to radiate love and passion, strive to inspire!
2. Never Stop Falling in Love with Your Spouse.
When we first fall in love we are swept up by feelings and magic. We get caught up in things that aren't really real. We chase after someone we admire, but for some reason when we get married that all stops. You forget the magic feeling that once swept you off your feet. You stop wooing this person that once mattered so much to you that you would do anything to show your affection for them. Getting married shouldn't be the end of you admiring your partner, it should only be the beginning.
3. Know that You're Both Growing & Changing. Grow Together.
Often we get married as young people. We fall in love with one person, but we forget they wont always be that exact person. You are not only growing old together, you're growing up together. The things you enjoy, the things you do, your priorities, all these things may change as you grow up. Take the opportunity to continue to get to know the one you love, change together, grow together. Don't expect someone to be the exact same at 40 as they were at 20, because that's just unrealistic.
4. A Happy Marriage is Created.
Marriage is HARD WORK! Having a happy marriage isn't something that you can sit back and hope happens to you. You have to work at making yourself happy and your life happy and your marriage happy! You have to create that happiness, it doesn't just happen!
5. Continue to Solidify your Marriage.
I loved this saying! When the roots are deep, there's no reason to fear the wind. When you work at making your marriage strong, when you work on creating that foundation those roots, you wont have to fear the hard times. When you are confident in the depth of your relationship you no longer fear the storms that are bound to come.
When we fall in love, we have this unrealistic idea of how perfect it will be. We imagine a life where the one we love will never hurt us. This isn't the way real life goes. Marriage I believe takes a lot of things, but one of the biggest things I've learned and one of the biggest things I believe marriage requires is forgiveness. You have to be willing to love someone through all the things life will bring including hurt, including your spouse hurting you. True love, in my opinion, is founded on forgiveness.7. Choosing to Love You.
We use the term "Falling In Love" which is exactly what we do. We fall, we get swept off our feet, and get lost in the moment. This is a beautiful thing, but once you enter into every day life with someone there are a lot more ordinary moments. There are a lot more difficult and unpleasant moments. These are the times we must CHOOSE to love, we must continue to consciously decide that we still love this person that we promised to love forever.
8. Give Your Partner Your Best.
I believe we often tend to take the most important people in our life for granted. The people we expect to be there, the people we expect to love us, often end up with the short end of the stick. We end up giving them whatever is left after the rest of the world ate away at us. These are the same people we use to strive to give everything to. Continue to work at giving your partner the best parts of you. Put in the effort, get dressed up when you go on a date. Make the conscious decision to laugh and joke with them at the end of the day. Make the effort to talk to them, to ask them about their day. Give them the best parts of you, because they deserve it the most.
9. Marriage is Equal in all ways.
We often hear that marriage has to be a 50-50 effort. I agree with this quote, marriage cant be 50-50 you both have to give 100% of yourself. You both have to work at making your marriage the best it can be. You must submerse yourself completely and give it everything you have.
10. You Are a Team.
Marriage comes with arguments, it comes with wins, it comes with loss. One of the most important things to remember is they are your team mate. They are supposed to be your partner in all that life offers. It isn't you against them, its you, together, fighting through and fighting for everything in life.
These are just simply some ideas that spoke to me. Like I said, I'm no expert, but I think we can always learn something from another's point of view. We should always be looking for ways to better our relationships.
I'm very thankful that I have been blessed with this man as my husband. I chose him and I continue to chose him as my love, my partner, and my team mate.
I hope that maybe you found these as inspirational as I did!
-The Pajama Mamma!
